
The only real way to get things like impulsion, flexion, on the bit, engagement of the hindlegs and for your horse to really listen to you is by gradual training. You need to try to learn what makes your horse tick and to use that to your advantage. In learning how your horse thinks you are finally getting into his mind and if he finds that at last you can "talk" his language he'll respect you rather than fear your repremands.
To learn from an inspiring teacher who gets you to enjoy your horse without fear of loosing control is a teacher worth his/her weight in gold. Usually most of us get towards this sort of understanding of horses after we've learnt and practiced all the bad habits. Wouldn't it be wonderful to be taught from the beginning, no matter what age, exactly what it is that makes a horse go so well for some people. I believe that most of the faults that people have with their horses (things that make their horses 'bad') is to do with the lack of understanding, no matter how long they've been riding, some people still don't get what riding a horse is all about.
To use whips and spurs to scare your horse into moving is wrong, negative punishment just does not work towards a harmonious relationship with a horse any more than it does when teaching a human being.
It can be very difficult and frustrating when you have a horse that won't do what you request, but consider natural horsemanship training for you and your horse.
Sometimes we have to admit that the horse we have isn't for us, sometimes people buy horses for their looks and don't care enough for the horse to have a good relationship with it. Then the problems start. Most blame the horse for all sorts of things which go wrong when it is ourselves who are at fault. But to keep on tormenting your horse with fear and yourself with stress isn't fair on either of you. Sort it out naturally. Don't be tempted to keep hitting and kicking your horse harder and harder thinking it'll work in the end. IT WONT and to be honest it's abusive.
The other thing which seems to be very popular at the moment is training aids. You should always consider very carefully before trying any artificial training aids as they could not only injure your horse physically but also mentally and emotionally. A horse who is ridden properly, carefully and with a fitness program thought out well, will almost certainly gain the correct head position himself, will learn how to engage his hindlegs naturally and most of all will not damage any muscles doing it. These things take time and patience. Lets face it all horses walk, trot, canter and gallop beautifully in their fields and in the wild and the only thing they have to learn is how to do all that with the unnatural weight of a person on their backs. If we learn to balance ourselves correctly and in a light way we can help our horses learn to carry themselves beautifully with us on their backs.
We should not be encouraged to use 'quick fixes' for our horses, in the end they usually fail. We must learn that all good things take time and are worth waiting for.
Lunging

I know there are some good lunging instructors and done well and for short periods I can see how that can help with the ridden work but there aren't many people that truly know why or HOW to lunge correctly. A lot of horses end up tensing especially if the side reins are shortened too quickly and they end up with a big tension muscle under their neck rather than the correct muscle over their crests.
The heavy caveson head collar used for lunging, with the rope coming from the front of the nose puts a very unnatural weight here and causes the horse to tip his head unnaturally to the outside of the circle to counterbalance. Repetative small circles are not at all natural to horses and it can damage joints, tendons and ligaments. Some studies have proved that lunging can cause unnatural calcification of joints, so please seriously think about this before doing this there are other ways that are more beneficial and fun for a horse to learn.
